Alicia's post really spoke to my heart. It could have been me speaking to my daughters. I wrote a similar (short) post on self belief in January dedicated to my youngest daughter.
I have spent much of my life struggling with low self esteem myself, believing the words of a couple of significant others - one of those significant others being my ex-husband and father of my 4 children (a lost soul himself). I believed those words of abuse spoken over me for 14 years:
"You are useless."
" No one else will want you."
"You are a terrible wife."
"No one could ever love you."... and worse.
Of all the abuse I endured in those 14 years, I believe the words were the most damaging.
"Death and life are in the power of the tongue," Proverbs 18:21
How does a husband teach his wife about self esteem? A quesion I can't answer. He has a hard task on his hands but thankfully he is loving, understanding & patient. I am blessed.
How does a mother teach her children about self esteem? I don't know, as I surely didn't succeed in undoing those harsh words spoken over my children from a very young age. They are all now grown adults. A little more about my children in my Gratitude Journal.
|Sarah (27) & husband Oscar - she is incredibly beautiful, loving, caring, extremely talented and worthy. So blessed to have such a wonderful, loving husband who is helping her to discover her beauty & worth.|
|Daniel (22) - One of the last photos I have of my wonderfully gifted and deeply loved prodigal son, and my grandson. We haven't seen them in almost a year. He has a newborn daughter now too who I have never seen.|
|Ben (20) - my "gentle giant", incredibly gifted, loving, caring & thoughtful but keeps his feelings well hidden|
|Bec (19) - absolutely beautiful, amazingly talented, loving, caring, thoughtful & worthy. My hope an prayer is that one day she sees herself as I do|
Words have power... the power of life or death. My task is to learn to accept the words of life being spoken over me... and to accept who I am in God.
"I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well." - Psalm 139:14